Question:
Solitude Raises Stress, Health Risk
Those who prefer to deal with problems alone, rather than reach to
others for comfort, may face higher stress levels and increased
health risks, researchers say.
The fact is, humans are emotionally frail. We need real support from
other people, and those who don't acknowledge it are going to feel
besieged, Dr. Jonathan Schedler, a Harvard research psychologist,
remarked in a magazine article on facing stress.
Answer:
I have been in solitude for about 8 years and I love it! When I have a
problem I work it out myself and I have become stronger because of it. I
don't have a problem being around others, I just prefer to be alone. I
really believe that it is very important for people to be alone more
often. We get too weak depending too much on the support of others. I
know many people who have never been alone in their whole lives. They
don't know what they are missing. I don't believe you can really start
to understand your self until you do have a great deal of solitude.
Perhaps the research psychologist should spend more time alone and see
if it doesn't help him. It can show you how much you depend on others to
lean on, and it can bring you to an understanding that can free you from
that dependence.
It is the same for me and I am very happy alone and when I am with other
people but I prefer to be alone.
When I talk with others it is not because I need something it is for giving
something.
I do not know if you will understand my english I am french
but you put the right words on my think.
"Being alone" raises stress in many individuals. They feel lonely, and this stresses them.
Solitude has long been sought out by individuals in various cultures to find peace. Are there any less stressd
persons in the world, than hermits, sadhus, and others who have disengaged from the hubbub?
Other human beings can be reassuring, or discordant. For some people, the benefits of interaction with others
will be outweighed by the costs.
A bit of solitude certainly could reduce stress felt by co-dependent couples engaging in domestic violence.
The good doctor might have been looking at a too-specific sliver of humanity... the amazing resilience of
human beings does not square with the alleged emotional frailty.
OK, some are emotionally frail, but to extrapolate that so as universally to cover homo sapiens ????
I suspect the sample the doctor examined might have been inadequate; or the conclusion is too broad.
This really interesting I find my stress reduced when I'm alone too
although I don't get that opportunity often enough. There was another
article some place (the NY TIMES?) which after interviewing psychiatrists,
etc. concluded that people need solititude from time to time and that
solitude actually relieves the stresses of every day life. I couldn't
agree more.
