Question:
Can the stress of knowing that you have to tell your wife, who is your
best friend, that you must leave and start a new life, make this stay
with me? Is this lip weirdness my body's way of saying, "hey dude, get
this over with already."
I live with this stress every day, and there's not a preiod of more
than an hour when I don't think about it. Will I be tortured by this
outbreak until I lift this thi weight off me?
Any similar experiences?
Answer:
Was wondering if anyone could chime in on a question I have about the
length of outbreaks.
All of my life I have gotten canker sores(inside mouth) whenever I
have a period of intense emotional stress, or I go a long time without
sufficient sleep.
I have never had a cold sore on my lip until recently. It started out
badly, but some Zovirax got it under control.
Here's a little backstory to flesh out my problem a little...
I've been married for 3 years, and was always lukewarm about the whole
situation. I love her like crazy, she's my best friend and all -- but
I know I made a mistake and my psyche will just not accept having to
stay in one place for the rest of my days. Anyway, this is a secret I
keep, from her, from friends and family.
One night while out with a friend, I confessed this to him...I mean, I
spilled it all. The dark things I've kept all to myself. I felt great
at that moment for telling him, but the next morning I woke up with a
severe hangover and the beginnings of a cold sore on the tip of my
lip.
It's a month later, and the cold sore is gone mostly, but there are
many tiny ones that haven't sprouted yet, and look like they're just
waiting to pop up. My lip remains red in the area of the original
outbreak...and something just doesn't seem right.
Well, that's quite a story! I can't say as I've had any parallel
experiences, but I can well believe what you say is true, because
stress is like that. Whatever you're feeling is throwing you all
out of whack.
Of course, even if you resolve the stress (and maybe talking with
your wife won't be as traumatic as you think it will be, maybe
you'll even come away from it with a change of heart, and new
commitment) there's no guarantee that your eternally pending
outbreak will clear up. You just don't know until you try, but even
without the outbreak, the stress isn't doing you or your wife any
good. Best to be honest. And like I say, sometimes just clearing
the air changes everything. Go at it with an open mind and see what
happens.
